Ok, so I'm an INTJ. That's Briggs Myers for Introversion iNtuition Thinking Judgement. Still confused? It's a personality type, you can look up Briggs Myers Type Indicator and take a free test (or several) online to find out what type you are, if you're curious.
I was pretty surprised at the accuracy of the description. It's not like a horoscope or something that could be applied to anyone and would fit. In fact it was a bit of a revelation to find out there are other people like me, when so much of my life I kept hearing how 'wrong' I was for not liking to meet new people, talk to strangers etc... I was 'supposed to' smile! Be happy! Play with that kid I just met. Yeah, no. Bright colors and loud noises never made me happy as a child, in fact they're extremely stressful.
A quick overview of the type; one of the rarest types accounting for only 1%-4% of the population, most INTJ's are male, so I'm double rare. Categorized as a rational type thinker, also known as Masterminds.
INTJs apply (often ruthlessly) the criterion "Does it work?" to everything from their own research efforts to the prevailing social norms. This in turn produces an unusual independence of mind, freeing the INTJ from the constraints of authority, convention, or sentiment for its own sake Dang straight! I don't care if it fits in with your customs or ideas, if it works, it works. INTJs are known as the "Systems Builders" of the types, perhaps in part because they possess the unusual trait combination of imagination and reliability. Both perfectionism and disregard for authority may come into play Honestly if you are incapable of being in charge, or you know less about a subject than I do, I'm not going to do things your way, I don't care what position you hold. Personal relationships, particularly romantic ones, can be the INTJ's Achilles heel ... This happens in part because many INTJs do not readily grasp the social rituals. LOL! Perhaps the most fundamental problem, however, is that INTJs really want people to make sense. People should have a reason for doing things the way they do, most apparently don't, WHY??
Anyway I found a forum full of INTJ's and the topics they discuss and the way they discuss them is just insane, it's like looking into my own brain. Here's a quote from one on what annoys you:
People who think small children with sticky fingers and a coating of whatever they've eaten in the last few hours covering their face and clothing is cute. It's not. It's gross. Please clean your offspring.
YES!!! Thank you. It's not that other personality types aren't annoyed by the same thing, but really, who would bring it up?
Who would start a thread on why humans are obsessed with hair? Or The amount of time we should spend thinking about other people.
On that last one, most INTJ's answered: Why think about them unless you are currently interacting with them? or
in general I'd take a shot in the dark and say that, in terms of what is best for both the species as a whole, in terms of compassion promoting survival of the group, and the psychological health of the concerned individual, maintaining what could be considered a healthy level of concern would be characterized by:
1.) Careful consideration of the necessity and benefit of any anxiety, the effectiveness of any actions catalyzed by the anxiety (assume the 'best' course of action was taken in light of the perceived threat).
2.) The evaluation of the risk to the thinker versus the risk to the object of anxiety. This could be broken down further to include the relative value of the individuals relative to some standard, and I'd probably say the continuation of the species as a whole, taking into account the possibility of future contributions in all relevant fields, blah blah blah, but I feel like I'm already taking this too far...
I picture this situation as a sort of hypothetical equation with dozens of variables which all represent the individual details of a certain situation.
That about covers it.